We all go through turning points in our lives after which nothing is ever the same. These defining moments can be brought about by events such as divorce, death of loved one, sudden success, loss of a job or career, serious ill-health, financial crisis, paradigm shift, retirement, being parent for the first time, empty Nesting, relocation etc. loss is not the enemy; not facing its existence is. We cannot avoid loss or shrug it off. Loss is the price we pay for living. How you respond to your loss or what you allow them to do to you will impact the rest of life. The better you handle them, the heathier you will be and the more you will grow and flourish.
Our culture, despite the tremendous technological changes that have taken place over the years, offers us little in the way of help in coping with major life changes and losses. The traditional approach to dealing with loss has been one of the following: “get over yourself” “move on” “tuff it up”, “be a man” “ignore the past and get on with life”. It is therefore not a surprise that we are facing a mental health crisis among all ages in our society.
The problem with this approach is that it does not work. Yet we seem to keep trying-perhaps because we do not know any other way or perhaps, we think that by using the same approach repeatedly, we may get a different result. But as somebody said, “madness is defined as doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different result. Perhaps it is time to change and find a new way.
The “How to Recover from Losses in Life” will help you to acknowledge your pain, embrace your sorrow and work through them.
It is designed to help you deal with the difficult moments in your life in a way that does not hurt anybody nor yourself but enables you to emerge from your defining moments stronger, bigger and better than you were before the situation.
It will help you to realize that the best way to handle change is not to ignore your losses, and the hurt but to embrace them. Recovery comes through facing the loss and grieving for them. Facing your loss means you do not try to postpone the pain, you do not deny the reality of what has happened, and you do not minimize your loss either.
Becoming aware of the process in advance can make a real difference to your life. The more you know, the fewer surprises you may face and the better prepared you can be. Whilst knowledge of the process does not necessarily reduce the pain, it gives you a direction and lets you know you are on track and are not going crazy.
Some people say time heals but I am of the view that time heals no wounds. Recovery from a loss just does not happen by itself. Healthy recovery from a loss happens when you take strategic steps. Recovery from loss is tied to our feelings. When we do not admit, face, and express our loss they become concealed or hidden and repressed.
So, whether you are feeling alone, drowning under an ocean of emotions, or you have worked your way through your worst nightmare and are now wondering how to get on with your life the workshop will help you make sense of your situation, develop strategies for coping with the difficult, painful, and confusing times in your life so you can move forward to embrace the new life that is waiting for you.
The exercises you will undertake are based on time tested methods for making successful transitions from a loss to the “new normal”.